Amidst the tinkle of laughter and mirth, is a booming voice that always manages to cloud over everything, and suck the happy out of all that is happening.
In households big or small, here or there, or anywhere in the world really; What are weddings like? What is the purpose of a wedding?
It is the coming together of two beings who wish to live their lives together with the blessing of their Maker, their families, and their friends. I would think that to any thinking mind, this would translate to mean; A Happy Moment... Right?
Instead, in most situations today, it has become a period of one's life when they and their closest are either at each others necks about the cost of it all, or the arrangements, or decisions and who would be making them, over this and over that, and just about anything and everything else and then some! Ego's clash, relationships stagger, -he-says-she-says- get's into play and emotions run dry, leaving all spent in matters that actually matter- only to then adorn themselves and cover up, in the finest of their able finest which their wallets, bank balance(s), loans, etc. can survive (or not).
Is all/any of this ultimately, really worth it?
How many times are all the things payed for, ever used again? How much of all that has been acquired, survived the test of time and real life; be it materialistic goods, or relationships made? Do any of those things, in today's world really blossom with time? Shouldn't it be more important to do things in moderation, so that emotions spent are in moderation, and time is allowed into the actual bonding of the people themselves - and their lives together - so that they can really start a blessed future together?
From where I see it: smiles are pasted on, war paint in place, accessories of all kinds and shapes in gear, livery on, real emotions masked (by most), and verbal blessings superfluously and quickly exchanged, when he-she-and-they ceremoniously unite!
How many of these blessings are not vacant, hollow, and pressed? How many really reverberate with life and honesty, to embrace whole-heartedly, all that is on show? How much truth fuels our actions for all AND God to see? How many of us stop to even think about God witnessing it all at that point of time?
Few in my personal experience.
All that goes on backstage (for days or even months sometimes), before the final curtain fall, makes me want to step away and not have anything to do with it until the uncalled for voices have stopped (been diffused and removed), and only peace and genuine good will is abound to stay.
Too much to ask for; the pragmatic in me chastises the self...